And so now everything you might do could lead to you being chastised or humiliated. It's not about who they are or how you feel, but because you think back to all the times you were treated like that. You don't know where to stand.

[ It makes more sense now. ]

I'm sorry, Ser Howe. That's not an easy thing to endure.

[ And even worse that it was not just an authority figure but his own mother, who should have been kinder, should have been more willing to give him love. ]

Care and love should be unconditional, not rife with standards and particulars. Especially with parents.